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Floating tent

We are doing it again, camping over Easter. But rather than a cabin like 2011, we are roughing it in a tent. As soon as Jason said we should go somewhere economical this Easter, I knew what he was thinking. Oh help me. Claire is not coming but the other two kids are, under duress.

The kids are coming because we told them they had to. I might have told them if they don’t make a fuss and come, they can get a day off school for the Easter Show next week. As an aside, I really wish the Easter Show in Sydney was during the school holidays. I know it’s supposed to be around Easter but can’t someone fix the calendar, moon, dates or whatever?

I realise a bribe isn’t a good thing to do but I think we all need a holiday. Sure we have our Bali holiday in May but we need a break now. School has been busy for the kids, in particular for Makeyla starting high school. Both bathrooms being renovated. Work for Jason and I has been hectic of late and we were snubbed by friends recently. We loosely spoke about camping with one of Jamie’s rugby friend’s family who we have holidayed with before but they decided to go camping with another couple. Jason feels we were dropped for another family who is more, well, popular. I say their loss.

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I can understand and share the kids’ concern about camping in tents. I have the battle camping scars from previous camping holidays as a kid or when we were newlyweds. One particular holiday stands out in my memory.

Jason and I had gone through a rough patch financially and friends suggested we should go on a holiday camping with them. Our Claire was aged around 5 at the time and our other ones were not born yet. It was up on the North Coast. We battled exiting Sydney traffic on the way up the coast and expected a warm week. I was suffering a bad case of sunburn on my face and then the weather turned one afternoon.

Claire was asleep and being a little more relaxed by this time in our holiday I decided I wanted a few extra wines one afternoon. It was raining and we had our tent and our friend’s set up with a huge tarp in between. Lots of wine, talk, laughter with everyone teasing me about my pash rash. My sunburnt face by this time had started to peel on my chin. It was red and sore. I have no idea what time it was when I staggered to bed. It kept raining.

It felt like I was only asleep for a short time when I felt my arm being tugged. It was Claire, saying we were floating. I told her to go back to sleep. My head ached by that stage from too much wine, my face hurt and skin was flaking off. Jason was dead to the world. Claire kept getting louder and louder saying we were floating. I put my arm out and it fell into wetness. I fumbled around for the torch and flicked it around our tent. We had about two inches of water in our tent. And all sorts of things were floating around the tent. By this stage I could hear other people waking in their tents. Lots of noise, tents unzipping and people swishing around in the water surrounding them. It was still raining.

Jason finally woke and in his daze stomped on my foot. In one swoop I picked up Claire swore about my foot and stumbled outside. The water level looked to be rising. My head throbbed, my foot throbbed and I felt sick. I was yelling orders to Jason who was still stumbling around in the tent trying to get clothes on. It must have been about 3am.

I must have looked a stunner. My hair long at the time was a mess, I noticed it in a reflection later after I staggered up the camp site hill to higher ground. I must have looked just stunning. My hair, hopping around with a child in my arms, my peeling and red chin with my head hung so low with a painful headache. An older lady who we befriended earlier in the week with her little dog came to our rescue was in a caravan up on the campsite hill. Here she said, let me look after your daughter in our caravan and out of the rain. Did I say it was still raining?  The older lady’s husband came back down the hill to help us quickly pack up our belongings that had started to float away.

When we had put all of our stuff in piles under one of the campsite colas, we both fell back onto our soggy camp beds and slept for a few hours, leaving Claire with the older couple. Can’t remember their names but they were just lovely. We decided later the next day when the weather was not improving to go home early.

So let’s hope with our little holiday this Easter we don’t have massive flooding, the kids have a good time and I don’t get sunburnt.

What are you doing for your Easter? Do you have a camping horror story?

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My son is a hermit

Last year my son Jamie was becoming very insular. Now in year 9 at high school his old friends are moving on and away from him and he is moving into his shell. I keep thinking he is becoming a hermit now he has befriended Luke at school.

Luke, also in year 9, has scraggly hair, is thin and tall, which goes along with the large feet. He reminds me of Shaggy from the cartoon Scooby Doo. Jamie first met Luke when they were both in infants at primary school. Luke was a really cute, bright and bubbly kid. All the other kids liked him and gravitated to him. He had this uncanny cheeky smile, a cute giggle that teachers and parents alike were in awe of. He got away with everything.

I wasn’t all that impressed with him. I thought he would be able get his own way just because he was Luke the cute and popular kid. Not that he was mischievous, he just was a kid. Jamie was in awe and would invite Luke to each of his infants birthday parties. Luke or his parents would never accept the invite. Jamie was always devastated. He wanted  the popular kid to like him.

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Luke was a star football and rugby player in primary school. Jamie was still in awe as Luke had all the friends. He would also have all the latest gadgets from his dad and the latest soccer/rugby boots from his mum. This kid Luke had everything.

It was only sometime in later primary school that I heard from another parent that Luke’s parents had divorced. It was a pretty nasty divorce too. Poor Luke and his younger sister were in the middle of it all. I think there were custody issues. I had heard the kids pushed and pulled all over the place. His dad wanted to move interstate and there was a whole range of gossip as to why. Luke pulled out of rugby, he stopped being the beautiful popular kid. Perhaps his confidence was waning as his school work suffered.

When the kids started high school, home life didn’t improve too much. His mum had a boyfriend who was living with them. For Luke life at home got worse. To get away, Luke got mixed up with the wrong crowd. Luke would miss school and rumour has it he was threatened with being expelled.

But late last year when Jamie was in year 8 in Visual Arts Jamie tells us Luke started to get into the work in class more. Jamie, being a little wary of the gang Luke was with, stayed away. But they appeared to have a similar quirky style in their paintings, or so Jamie thinks.

It wasn’t till a chance encounter during the Christmas break that we bumped into Luke and his mum that we mentioned we were going into see the Anish Kapoor exhibition at the Museum of Contemporary art. Luke looked keen so Jamie asked him to come along with us. The kids and I made a day of it in the city and had a great day walking around the gallery, the exhibition and the Rocks. Luke was a little nervous at first but I recognised that smile he used to give as a young child. He looked like he was in his element with the art.

As things have panned out, Luke and Jamie have become friends. The old Luke gang are no more, as far as I am aware. So now our Jamie is leaving art books across the house. He wants want to visit obscure exhibitions about Sydney. He’s visiting amazing websites with amazing art. Jamie keeps talking about art and I do wonder if the artist in me is actually doing a better job coming out in him. So my son has become a hermit. He seems to be spending a lot of time online in his room looking online at all sorts of art; digital, contemporary, graffiti art and the like. He has redecorated his bedroom, gone are the Tiger football player posters and in it’s place his own art. I think art is the reason my son has become a hermit in his room. A hermit to the world of art.

Well I think it’s art….hopefully art and not porn. Has one of your children discovered something that engrosses them so much they become a hermit to it?

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Bathroom Renovation

What have we started? It all started over Christmas an off the cuff remark from a friend about their bathroom renovation and now we are renovating ours. Just wish we thought about doing it earlier than NOW.

If we had any consideration for our children we WOULD have started and completed it during the school holidays. That’s what our daughter Makeyla yelled at us the other day. The attitude comes and goes now that she has started at high school. It is accompanied with eating heaps of food one day and then eating like a sparrow the next. I guess the attitude needs fuel.

Why would we ever consider renovating BOTH bathrooms at the same time too. Doesn’t matter it would save us money having the trades tag teaming between the main bathroom and our ensuite. Teenagers just don’t get it.

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Jason my husband couldn’t see what the fuss was all about. It’s summer and as far as he is concerned, we can use the neighbours shower (bless them) and we have a toilet in the laundry that is not being renovated. At worse the kids can use the sprinkler just as they did when they were toddlers. I thought it was a funny suggestion but Makeyla stormed off in disgust. Our other daughter Claire is spending a few weeks at her boyfriends, to get away from it all. Smart girl.

To keep costs down Jason took a day off work last week and with a friend pulled out the old bathrooms. The bathroom company assured us they would start work late last week. But due to a hint of rain they have delayed it to next week. I don’t understand why the delay, the bathroom is inside and it doesn’t rain inside. Sure it might have flooded up in Northern NSW (again) but that’s hundreds of kilometres away.

Colleagues at work tell me of horror stories about their bathroom renovations. Such as wrong tiles delivered and tiler started work before it was picked up by the project manager. Light fittings back to front, wrong taps, splash backs splintering when delivered, water leaks, delays, delays and delays. One poor lady was so disheartened with it all she just accepted the faults to get her bathroom back.

It’s a new year for the kids at high school . Jamie had his birthday recently is in year 9 and Makeyla is like a peacock with all her new friends in year 7. With so many primary schools filtering their kids into the same high school there are so many friends to choose from. Plus she met up with a lot of girls she used to dance with at ballet some years ago. So there has been a bit of juggling friends and forming new bonds.

It surprises me that my daughter who has been talking to her girlfriends all day at school will spend most of the evening on the phone or Facebook’ing with them again at night. I’ve allowed her to create a Facebook account like Jamie as long as I am her friend and can monitor. I’ve written about Facebook in a previous post.

So Makeyla has also discovered the mirror. She has to check herself out in every mirror around the house. She was quite adamant to having a large mirror in the new bathroom. Almost vanity unit to ceiling. The tradie from the bathroom company mustn’t have a daughter or wife. He scoffed at the size of our bathroom mirror. I don’t know what he’s talking about. I think a mirror can really make a room look lighter and airier.

Problem with a large mirror Jason now thinks is, we may never get her out of the bathroom. I guess I can see where he is coming from. Recently, she started to spend an hour or so in the bathroom with the hair straightener. Agh teenagers. Agh female teenagers. I also think Jason has forgotten this is our second daughter. He has forgotten all these issues we had with Claire at this age. The best is yet to come, not.

So here I was sitting outside for my own time out this afternoon. Enjoying the outside quietness. But inside our teenage kids were arguing again about whose stuff will be put where in the new bathroom. My son teasing Makeyla about setting up a bathroom roster system. She would get the bathroom from 6-7am, so that he and Claire had enough time for them prior to school and job hunting. I thought it was quite a good idea of Jamie not so Makeyla. Teenagers! Teenagers today and young adults the next. Some days are good and some are horrid. In the meantime, I hope our bathrooms is renovated quickly. I would like a shower in my own bathroom.

Do you have teenagers? If so, do you have a bathroom roster that works? I’d love to know.

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